Saturday Night Musings.

It’s Saturday night.

I’ll be leading worship at church tomorrow before making the 2hr drive to my parents to celebrate Father’s Day. My Dad Jim passed away when I was 13 but left a legacy of faith in Jesus, love for my mom and us boys, and desire to be a man of God. My mom remarried, and I’ve never called my Dad Brian ‘step-anthing”. He was the man God raised up to stand in the gap and love a a hurting wife and 3 sons. We never felt like we were anything less than his boys, and never felt like he was doing anything less than trying to honor the legacy of Jim.

Now I’m a dad. My own son was born 7 weeks ago tomorrow. Will I leave the same legacy both my dad’s have given me? My mother doesn’t even know her father’s name. It makes me think about how many kids are born without fathers. How many fathers leave and abandon their family and their vows made before God and man. How many father’s are there physically but checked out emotionally. How many fathers make the games and birthdays but have no relationship or destroy what little relationship they have in their wrath and anger.

I’ve been very blessed. i hope to give the same blessings to my son. I hope to be part of calling men in my church to do the same.

Something to think about. The statistics vary but something like 90% of the time, the whole family will follow Jesus if the father does, compared to 20-30% of the time if the mother is leading the home spiritually. The least likely guy to go to church is a guy in his 20’s. This guy (and this is just my experience, no stats) is also the most likely to have a father like the ones I described above: Checked out or never there.

Something to think about when we decide what songs and style of music to do in our worship expression.

Leading From The Seats


Consider this a random thoughts post.

Last Sunday I started my “paternity leave” from leading worship at Calvary:Arlington. My son hasn’t arrived yet but I thought it better to schedule myself off early in case he decided to show up early. Last week I played in the band, this week I won’t.

Strange as it may sound, I think that when we lead the church in worship regularly, we can forget how to worship with the church regularly. Can I just be a part of the congregation without hearing the chord changes, and thinking how I would have arranged that song? That is a huge question because how can I lead people in worship I can’t enter in and be lead in worship myself?

And yet, another funny aspect to this whole season for me is that in a real sense I will be leading people in worship: my family.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it” –Proverbs 22:6

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” –Ephesians 6:4

“How on the day that you stood before the Lord your God at Horeb, the Lord said to me, ‘Gather the people to me, that I may let them hear my words, so that they may learn to fear me all the days that they live on the earth, and that they may teach their children so” — Deuteronomy 4:10

The bible is full of verses and passages calling men to teach their children to worship. By making sure my family is at church regularly. Making sure they see me worshiping Jesus. Making sure Jesus is praised and talked about often in our home. But living an active faith as a witness to my wife and son, I will be leading them in the praise and worship of Jesus Christ.

So I’ll lead worship from the seats tomorrow with my wife by my side and Jesus as our focus.